just saw an anti violence campaign that said “real men don’t hit women” like???? yes. yes they do. those are real men doing those things, and that’s why i don’t trust them. stop appealing to men’s fragile masculinity in order to coerce them into being decent human beings 2k14.
With the exception of that time when I got The Great Brooklyn Stomach Bug of 2013 and spent three straight days watching Downton Abbey on my bathroom floor, I have not gone a single day in New York without a man yelling at me, rubbing up against me, making lewd gestures in my direction, providing unsolicited commentary on my body, or badgering me for my contact information.
"But that sounds crazy!" the dudes protest. And it is! Until you talk to literally any woman ever and they tell you the exact same thing.
Every mundane choice you make, from the length of your skirt to the opacity of your tights to the volume of your iPod to the sturdiness of your jewelry, must be considered carefully and yet doesn’t matter at all. If I had to run in these shoes, could I? If someone grabbed my ponytail or my necklace, could I shake him off? Does this color make me look like I want to be approached? And off come the never-worn stilettos and down comes the hair, and all of a sudden you’re wearing an outfit that you hate, because you are just too fucking tired to deal with it today…and some asshole walks up to you on the train platform and starts making kissy noises in your ear anyway.
It’s like an eternal ringing in your ears, except sometimes that ringing assumes a human form and follows you home at night.
It doesn’t have to be your clothes. It’s your weight. Your age. The fact you exist. You’re not in purdah. You’re not in a baby carriage or a car with smoked glass windows. If you’re out there, you’re their game, and far too many of them are pigs. No, I’m wrong. Pigs are clean, given their preference.
Why don’t their families teach them not to do this when their young? Why don’t their fathers and mothers teach them respect for other people? Why don’t their older brothers teach them respect? Their older sisters? Their grandparents, their teachers, their ministers/priests/whatever/coaches? It’s not hard. “I see you do that to a girl, and we’re going to have a talk.” “Now that’s what I call just plain mean.” “We’re not hanging out anymore. He keeps talking trash to every girl he sees.”(via tamorapierce)